Broads and Billboards aka Oh YaVaughnie…

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When this juicy story arrived in my e-mail inbox on Friday courtesy of my girl U, I knew I had to write about it…this story is one for the history books…It should definitely be a chapter, if not section, in the Playa Playa manual….Okay, enough of the intro…

Oracle president Charles Phillips must have had a near coronary when he discovered that his former mistress of nearly nine years literally put their love display by posting a picture of the couple on billboards in San Francisco, where Oracle is based; Atlanta and New York’s Time Square. Apparently YaVaughnie (that name is something huh?) was inspired to do so after discovering that Charles was going back to his wife. But she did not stop there. She created a Web site, that has now been taken down, that included a montage of pictures of the couple complete with a soundtrack of karaoke tunes recorded by the former lovers.

I guess what trips me out about this story beyond the obvious is that Phillips is a black man and the president of Oracle…I mean I know that our president is black…but something about this makes me wonder what our forefathers like Frederick Douglass or Harriet Tubman would say…I’m like you defied the odds against you as a black man and rose the top of a major corporation and managed to be taken down by a woman…But I guess folks died so that we could be free – free to vote and free to cheat if we so desire…

And beyond that, I wonder how does one go about being the mistress to the president of a major corporation…They must have obviously run in the same circles…but what circle exactly did YaVaughnie come from…According to stories I’ve read, YaVaughnie is an actress and a writer…but I cannot find a single acting credit or anything she has written…hmmm…something to ponder…

And beyond that, I wonder how many women are approached by married men…As far as I know, two married men have approached me, but of course, I shut them down…But back to YaVaughnie, I understand her pain to a certain degree but how did she wake up day after day for more than eight years knowing that she was cheating with somebody’s husband, the father of a child…

If had to write a chapter in the Playa Playa Manual about YaVaughnie (I love her name), I would entitle it “It’s a Thin Line…” (Y’all fill in the rest…) I would say, “Playas, when thinking of taking a mistress, one must consider the temperament of the ‘lady’ in question. The same woman who is wild and free will remain wild and free when you decide her services are no longer needed. Please consult the section on Steve McNair.  You must also consider the station in life of the ‘lady’ in question. If she has nothing to lose, chances are you will be losing a great deal should you decide her services are no longer needed. Please consult the section on Tiger Woods.” I could go on and on…

I think there should be a yearly edition of the Playa Playa Manual, and the most infamous cheater of the year should be pictured on the cover. Although 2010 has just begun, I think John Edwards should be on the cover for the 2010 edition. (I’m just having fun now…I’m sorry for those who are offended…) You cheat on your cancer-stricken wife and father a child with the mistress…Really, there are no words…I think former President Bill Clinton should be a consultant for the manual…

But seriously though, it’s all sooo sad….since this is a religious blog, lemme go head and add some applicable scripture to this commentary…

But a man who commits adultery lacks judgment; whoever does so destroys himself. Proverbs 6:32

Any thoughts?

Tidbits & Titillations aka Dear God, it’s me Jackie…

Dreams do come true...
Dreams do come true…

Hello World!!!

Here are some subjects that I have been thinking and praying about lately:

1. My favorite bishop, the good Bishop Thomas Weeks from right here in the A, is engaged to be married to the Prophetess Christina Glenn…Well Hallelujah and Thank You Reality Shows! Apparently, the happy couple have been engaged for at least a month! How I missed this news I don’t know. If you remember, less than a year ago, he launched the reality show “Who Will Be the Next Mrs. Weeks” on his Web site bishopweeks.com to find a new wife. His second ex-wife Prophetess Juanita Bynum divorced the bishop about two years after he beat her down in the parking lot of an Atlanta hotel. When I wrote my original post about Bishop Weeks, I really didn’t think a woman would really date him after the much publicized incident between Bynum and her ex-husband, but I was wrong. Pastor, now called Prophetess Christina Glenn is excited about her upcoming nuptials to the good bishop!

Dear God, It’s no secret that many of my friends and I want to get married. Please help us to not want to get married so badly that we open our hearts and close our minds…Give us Your wisdom and insight so that we will wait for the ones that you have for us…In Jesus’ name, Amen.

2. Steve McNair & Sahel Kazemi…I’ve heard all about it. I’m sure that you have heard all about it so I won’t rehash the details here… What a tragic story…I’m sure that men (ahem cheaters)  like Kwame Kilpatrick, South Carolina Governor Mark Sanford, former New York Governor Eliot Spitzer and former presidential candidate John Edwards are like it’s getting “hard out here for a pimp” after hearing this story…Is there another clause in the wedding vows of rich and powerful men like “I promise to be faithful unless the right ‘opportunity’ (a)rises” if you know what I mean…

Dear God, Does marrying a man with power, influence and money mean that eventually my man will cheat on me? Do I have to marry a man that is flat broke to guarantee that he will be faithful to me…help me to understand Lord…In Jesus’ name I pray, Amen.

3. I am an Internet junkie always on the lookout for interesting sites, blogs, etc. Last week, while watching my absolute favorite soap, “The Young and the Restless,” I saw an ad for the Web site, outofyourlife.com.  Through the Web site, women can receive cash for an engagement ring or other jewelry that was given to them during a good relationship that has gone bad…This is how it works: a woman requests a Break-Up Box which she receives in the mail. After receiving the Break-Up Box, the woman places her jewelry in it and mails it back to the Web site. Once receiving the jewelry, it will be appraised and a check will be mailed back to her…I guess with our country’s high divorce rate, there is a sizeable market for such a service…But learning about this Web site has made me a little bitter. I haven’t received very much jewelry from men at all…My father bought me a beautiful diamond and gold nugget cluster ring when I was 16 years old, but he’s my dad so I don’t think that counts…A high school boyfriend found a gold ring on the track during a track meet once and gave it me…A college boyfriend gave me a gold ring with a little itty bitty diamond chiplet…The chiplet was soo small that I’m not even sure if it’s still there…Every once in a while I hold it up to the light, but I still can’t tell if it’s there…after that, zilch…and I’m 35…

Hed betta not...

He'd betta not...

Dear God, help me to not hate on women who have received gargantuan rings from their boyfriends, fiances or husbands…I know that I can buy my own rings if I want to, but I don’t want to..Lord bring a man into my life that will be buy me some jewelry… It doesn’t have to be the biggest diamond in the world Lord, but help me and others see it even if we’re not holding it up to the light…In Jesus’ name, Amen…

4. Are all romantic relationships open unless you are married? We can all agree that if you are married, you are expected to be faithful…But if you are not married, should you be in a “committed” relationship? For example, let’s say that you are in a committed relationship, but you are not engaged…What if you meet a really great person? Are you really supposed to not explore that option? Will one date kill you? And we’ve all heard of stories of people who were engaged and met “The One” before they married the other one?

Dear God, help me to know the One that you have for me…If I happen to be engaged when I meet that One, help me to dump the other one and move on…In Jesus’ Name, Amen…

This is more like it...who is that guy?

This is more like it...who is that guy?

5. So let’s say that after all of my prayers, I finally meet The One and we get married…and then it becomes dull and uninteresting…what do married people do when that happens? Well, one interesting Web site has the answer. Through ashleymadison.com, married people can date…In fact, their motto is “Life is short. Have an affair.” Maybe the aforementiond cheaters should have used this Web site to have a discreet affair. It’s like E-harmony for married people it seems…you can search the profiles of over 4 million married members…how romantic…

And then You made man...

And then You made man...

Dear God, when I do get married, please help me to have fun all of the time lest I be tempted to spice things up a bit by dating while I’m married…Help my man to be as fine as the day I married him forever and always…I pray that the sight of my man will always make me want to jump on him like Whitney did to Bobby on his now defunct reality show “Being Bobby Brown.” And Lord, if he is Idris Elba…maybe that can happen…in Jesus’ name, Amen…

 

Any thoughts?