Hard Lessons: Before Jackie Holness Could Pledge Delta Sigma Theta She Had to Look Inside Herself

I'm on the The Atlanta Journal-Constitution Website...YAY!!!

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Hello World,

As some of you may know, yesterday, my beloved sorority, Delta Sigma Theta Sorority Incorporated, celebrated our 103rd Founders Day! And in honor of our sorority, our local newspaper, The Atlanta Journal-Constitution newspaper is celebrating our sorority all week long! Today, my road to Delta is featured on its website…

Below is the beginning…

My introduction to black Greek collegiate culture was the same as many of us who grew up in the ‘1990s, the golden age of black pop culture.

I tuned into “A Different World” week after week as a high school student. I remember the episode when Whitley pushed too hard while pledging her roommate Kim, who was attempting to be initiated into her sorority.

Whitley’s drill sergeant attitude backfires when Kim and the rest of the pledges simultaneously stop taking orders from her. In the span of the 30-minute sitcom, they, of course, work out their differences, becoming not only sisters in friendship but sorority sisters. Read the rest of the story on myajc.com.

Any thoughts?

How To Achieve Your Goals, Dreams & Resolutions in One Year…

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Hello World,

It’s been a while since I’ve gotten really personal on this space but since it is a New Year, the time of the year that many of us reserve to reassess our personal and professional goals, dreams, resolutions, etc., I have decided to let you into my head…

I have LOTS of dreams, but two are most important to me….one is personal and one is professional and only God and my husband know all about them right now and they will remain that way for now…

However, back in 2008, I also had LOTS of dreams and similarly to what is going on in my life now, two of them – (one was personal and one was professional) surpassed the rest…As I shared in a previous post in 2013, but did not share then, “I wanted to meet and get married to the man God kept for me, and I wanted to be a published author.” In 2008, it seemed nothing I did got me any closer to my dreams, but as I look back, God was leading me to the realization of my dreams…I just couldn’t see it then…

So let me take you back to 2007-2008…I was 34 years old and had gotten reacquainted with a man I dated in college. We had a lot a fun when we dated in college but we just didn’t work out as a couple. However, we had kept in touch here and there over the years, and we decided to give it a try again. Being the storyteller that I am, it seemed like the perfect ending to a long and winding story. College fun turns into lasting love…But that is not what happened…For all of the things we had in common and all of the fun we still had, he was not a churchgoing Christian man and that was a deal breaker for me…He was not an atheist, but he just didn’t think it was necessary to go to church…Nothing I did, said or prayed changed that so we broke up, and I was heartbroken…

So I did what made sense for me to do right then…I turned my pain into profit and pitched an article to UPSCALE magazine about why black men don’t go to church…An editor liked and approved the idea, and I happily tracked down sources for the article…One of those sources was Dr. Jawanza Kunjufu, the author of book “Adam! Where Are You?: Why Most Black Men Don’t Go to Church” Now, here is where the story gets kinda spooky or super spiritual depending on how you look at it. I read his book before I interviewed him, and I was shocked to read one of the illustrations in his book about someone who was looking for a black man in church. This illustration featured a woman named Jackie who was 34 years old and had made all of the “right moves” but was still unable to meet the right churchgoing man…Hello, my name was (is) Jackie, I was 34 and I had felt I had made all of the “right moves” and still hadn’t met the churchgoing man of my dreams…I knew then that the interview was one of those pebbles that God throws down on your path to let you know that you are moving in the right direction…After I interviewed Dr. Kunjufu, I told him I was a lot like the “Jackie” in his book and even he was surprised that we shared some of the exact same qualities…In fact, he later e-mailed these words to me – “I enjoyed our interview, and I believe God has your husband waiting for you!” By the way, my article was published in the August 2008 issue of UPSCALE magazine…

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Meanwhile, I also felt stalled in my professional life…I mean I had some wonderful things going on…I had secured freelance writing opportunities that made it possible for me not to have the traditional 9 to 5 gig and I was profoundly grateful, but I had wanted to be a published book author since I was a little girl…And it seemed that every door I tried to walk through to make it happen was eventually slammed in my face…In 2007, I had gone to a writers conference in Philadelphia and had attracted the attention of the senior acquisitions editor of my DREAM publishing company…He enthusiastically took my book proposal and promised he would be in touch soon…He kept his promise and within a couple of weeks, he e-mailed me…I thought it had to be good news because only good news comes that fast…but it wasn’t…He e-mailed these words to me – “I read over your book proposal, My Journey, but my marketing department tells me that this is a hard kind of book for them to sell nationally, and so I have to reject it. Sorry.” I bet he wasn’t as sorry as I was…I was salty about that…

But I also realized that if I had gotten the attention of the senior acquisitions editor, I had something to offer even if it wasn’t quite right yet…At that same conference, I had pitched my book “My Journey” (which is what the book was called then…What a boring title!) to someone else in the publishing industry, and I had used the words “after the altar call” in the pitch…She told me I should rename my book “After the Altar Call.” Also, at that same conference, I learned about having a “platform” and why every nonfiction author had to have one…By the following year, I decided I was going to be the next blogger who turned it into a book…After the Altar Call was born in September 2008…

It would take TWO MORE YEARS before these two dreams would come into fruition… By 2010, I had dated more men but those relationships hadn’t worked out either…But there was a guy at my church who I knew I had a crush on me, but he wasn’t my usual type so I never took him seriously…by then, I thought well, I will give him a chance…That guy revealed himself to be my husband in 2010…Also, after two years of blogging, it occurred to me that if my story and platform weren’t enough by themselves maybe I should include the stories and platforms of other women in a new book proposal for After the Altar Call: The Sisters’ Guide to Developing a Personal Relationship With God…That was the key that unlocked a door that had been previously slammed in my face…I secured a book deal that year…

So how do you achieve your goals, dreams & resolutions in one year?

Well, there is good news and bad news…In my experience, some of the best goals, dreams and resolutions can be achieved in one year, but it usually takes years to get there…But the good news is if you trust in God and in His timing, you will receive God’s best for you…It goes back to my favorite verse:

And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose. Romans 8:28

Any thoughts?

The Top 10 Blog Posts and or Articles for Black Christian Women in December 2015

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Hello World,

As always, December was a whirlwind of a month, but I did manage to curate another list of interesting blog posts and or articles for black Christian women from last month that intrigued me as a black Christian woman ( but you don’t have be a black Christian woman to to check them out:) ! ) As usual, let me know if you like my list! Enjoy and share!

1.”Wheaton College Suspends Hijab-Wearing Professor After ‘Same God’ Comment” by Bob Smietana

Excerpt: Larycia Alaine Hawkins, an associate professor who has taught at Wheaton since 2007, announced last week that she’d don the traditional headscarf as a sign of human, theological, and embodied solidarity. “I stand in religious solidarity with Muslims because they, like me, a Christian, are people of the book,” she wrote in a Facebook post on December 10. “And as Pope Francis stated last week, we worship the same God.” See more at: christianitytoday.com.

2. “Modesty Lets Our Light Shine” by Kim Cash Tate

Excerpt: Last Saturday evening, Ayesha Curry, wife of NBA star Stephen Curry, was flipping through a Style Weekly and shared her observations with Twitter: Everyone’s into barely wearing clothes these days huh? Not my style. I like to keep the good stuff covered up for the one who matters. Those thoughts sparked a Twitter debate on the virtues — or lack thereof — of showing off one’s figure with bare clothing. One reply asked, “What’s wrong with not being covered up?” With only a few characters, Ayesha Curry, a professed believer in Jesus Christ, injected modesty — and salt and light — into the social stream. See more at: desiringgod.org.

3. “Church of God Pastor Becomes City’s First Black, First Woman Mayor” by Carl Stagner

Excerpt: “Sixty years ago, Rosa Parks sat down so I could stand up today.” Pastor Rochelle Robinson’s words reflect a strong sense of both gratitude and accomplishment for her historic win. She never set out to make a name for herself or capture the attention of the national media. All she wanted to do was serve God and her community. But when the votes were tallied in the runoff election on December 1, Rochelle Robinson became the first African American and first female ever to be elected mayor of Douglasville, Georgia. See more at: chognews.org.

4. “10 Women in Politics in Africa You Didn’t Read About in 2015” by Omono Eremionkhale

Excerpt: Popularly called Mama Anambra, Virginia Ngozi Etiaba will go down in history as the very first democratically elected governor in Anambra state from November 2, 2006 to June 13, 2007. As governor, she flagged-off several road projects and invested heavily in the state’s Orient Petroleum Company. She was reluctant to take oath of office after her boss, Peter Obi had been impeached on grounds of gross misconduct. She however transferred power to Obi when the impeachment was annulled by the appeal court. In 2012, she released a book; My Life, My Story: Autobiography of Nigeria’s First Female Governor, which chronicles her life and her political journey. She once said; “If a woman is given the chance to rule Nigeria, the country will be corruption free, as only less than one percent of women are corrupt. Nigerians should pray for an era when a woman will come on board to rule this country.” See more at: venturesafrica.com.

5. “Babbie Mason, Steve Amerson at Mims Baptist This Sunday” by Sondra Hernandez
Excerpt: She tells this story of how she got her start. “It was the summer of 1980 and I’d just moved to Georgia,” she said. “There was a big church around the corner, Mount Paran Church. My husband said we’ve got to get you to do a concert there.” At the time she already had one album out. The head pastor was a very busy man, there was a 90-day wait to see him, she said. She called it a mega church back before there were mega churches. Being persistent they ask to see a music minister and others. Finally the singles minister saw them. “He took my album and I kind of had the feeling ‘don’t call us, we’ll call you,’” she said. “But I noticed there was a big piano in the hall and I asked him if I could play just one song for myself. He agreed. He came out of his office and said ‘What are you doing tomorrow night?”, I said ‘nothing’,” he said ‘Come play for the singles meeting.’” At that meeting she met a man who owned a coffeehouse, that man asked her to play at his coffeehouse. A pastor heard her play at the coffeehouse and ask her to play at his church. She says that’s how it has all happened for 32 years in ministry. See more at: yourhoustonnews.com.

6. “Mattiwilda Dobbs, Pathbreaking Operatic Soprano, Dies at 90” by Emily Langer

Excerpt: Like many African-American opera singers born in the early part of the 20th century, she was first fully recognized for her talent not in the United States, but rather in Europe — an ocean away from the Jim Crow South where she had grown up singing in her First Congregational Church choir in Atlanta and listening to the black contralto Marian Anderson. Ms. Dobbs’s father, an organizer of early voter-registration drives for blacks, saw to it that she and her five sisters attended college. A series of scholarships helped finance her musical training and took her to Europe, where, while singing as a concert recitalist, she won the International Music Competition in Geneva, Switzerland, in 1951. See more at: washingtonpost.com.

7. “Alva James-Johnson: Preserving Black Institutions”

Excerpt: The next day, I was even more inspired as I stood at the ribbon cutting for a brand new media center that was built for the communications department. The center is named after Leroy and Lois Peters, a black couple who donated $1.2 million for the project. When it was over, I spoke briefly with Lois, thanking her for her sacrifice. She told me it was something she and her husband never thought they could do. But they prayed for God to bless their Maryland-based home health care business, and it all came to pass. Prior to the Oakwood project, the couple also helped build a music education center at another university with a $1 million contribution. See more at: ledger-enquirer.com.

8. “God Is a 24/7 Personal Trainer” by Erin Beresini

Excerpt: “Amen!” say the women who just sat down in the front row. By the time Dan’s done introducing himself, keynote speaker Pastor Debra B. Morton of New Orleans’ Greater St. Stephen Full Gospel Baptist Church arrives with an entourage. Pastor D, a local celebrity looking trés on fleek in a grey dress, black pumps, and big gold hoops, ascends the stage and tells a story about how her 65-year-old husband runs an hour a day. Because he exercises, his cancer surgery (type unspecified) went much better than it would have otherwise, and now he’s seven years cancer-free. “God just kept saying to us how important health and fitness was,” she says. “I felt a commitment to the African American community—our church is 90 percent African American—and I just saw people who couldn’t walk to the altar for prayer.”  See more at: outsideonline.com.

9. “‘Stained-Glass Ceiling’ For Women Clergy”

Excerpt: Chaves says only about 11% of congregations are led by women.  He’s been looking at this issue since his first study in 1998. “But I would have thought that the groups where there are more women, basically a mainline protestant groups, also black churches where there is an increase in women ministers, I would have thought those increases would be enough to move the needle in the national scene, but they’re not,” said Chaves. See more at: wunc.org.

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10. “Standing in Solidarity: A Faith-Rooted Call to Action With and for Black Women and Girls” by Andrew Wilkes

Excerpt: For communities of color and of faith, standing with black women and girls is more than a desirable ideal — it is a moral obligation and sacred opportunity. Last weekend, a national planning team launched a campaign to stand with black women and girls under the organizing hashtag of #StandwithBWG. This networked undertaking of public education is a month-long effort of using liturgy, advocacy for equitable public policy, and digital engagement to prioritize the well-being of women of color. It is an effort designed to support, not supplant, the existing leadership and advocacy of black women and girls on their own behalf.

The call to action is for black congregations of faith to move beyond special occasion advocacy — wherein Women’s Day, Mother’s Day, or a publicized crisis generate temporary support — to sustained advocacy for black women and girls that situates their health, happiness, and wholeness within the sediment and sinews, the pulpit and pews, of our sanctuaries. See more at: huffingtonpost.com.

If you know of any black Christian women bloggers and or writers, please e-mail me at jacqueline@afterthealtarcall.com as I’m always interested in expanding my community of black Christian women blogs and websites. As I noted before, while this is a roundup of interesting blog posts and or articles for black Christian women, you don’t have to be one to appreciate these pieces :).

Any thoughts?