Your Cheatin’ Heart Will Tell On You…

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If I hadn’t heard this was a true story, I would have thought that some very imaginative and skillful Christian novelist wove this story early one morning after watching episode  after episode of “Fatal Vows” on the Investigation Discovery (ID) Channel, my new favorite channel!

Have you read the story of “Bishop Dies of Apparent Heart Attack After Wife Allegedly Pushed Him to Confess Infidelity to Church?” on The Christian Post.

You must read this nearly unbelievable story but basically what happened is that Bishop Bobby Davis of of Miracle Faith World Outreach Church in Bridgeport, Connecticut died a week ago today after he told his wife Christine to whom he had been married for 50 years that he had been unfaithful some time ago. He told her before the church service, and she pushed him to confess to the congregation in a special meeting after the church service. Apparently, his children were also unaware of their father’s past transgression and mayhem ensued. According to The Christian Post, “It got physical. One of the sons attacked him. I was told one of the daughters poured water on him. It was like something out of, not even like the Old Testament, but a bad reality TV show,” said the source. “My heart is so devastated because it could have been handled in a private manner.”

Reportedly, Bishop Davis, who was apparently and ironically, a certified marriage and family therapist, had a heart attack at his church and was later pronounced dead at Bridgeport Hospital.

As a newly married woman and a Christian, this story is disturbing. I have so many questions.

  • What caused this man of God and marriage and family therapist to cheat on his wife?
  • What prompted the bishop to tell his wife of this infidelity after such a long time had passed? (Apparently, the person whom he cheated with had passed away.)
  • In light of what happened, are his wife and childen regretful of how their actions may have contributed to the bishop’s death?
  • Was the way he died evidence of God’s judgment?
  • Was the bishop’s ministry negated because of one sin?
  • Did the bishop go to Heaven?
  • What can we learn from this story?

Here are my answers to the questions I posed:

  • I don’t know the exact circumstances that led to the bishop’s cheating and perhaps no one will never know now that he is dead. However, he was not the first man of God that succumbed to his temptation. Read the story of David, a “man after God’s own heart,” who committed adultery, in 2 Samuel 11.
  • When we sin and do not repent, we create a barrier between ourselves and God.  We are told that in Isaiah 59:2. We are also told in James 5:16 that we are supposed to confess our sins to each other to be healed.
  • I don’t blame the reaction of the bishop’s family to his infidelity because I am sure they are deeply hurt by what he did, and from what I read, this is the first time they heard about his infidelity. But hopefully they can move past all of the anger and bitterness they feel and forgive him. We are told in Ephesians 4:31-32 to let go of anger and bitterness and forgive a person if that person has asked to forgiven as Jesus Christ has forgiven us.
  • With the dramatic way the bishop died, it’s hard not to wander if the way he died was evidence of God’s judgment. It does state in the Bible that if we continue in sin and take communion Sunday after Sunday knowing that we have not confessed our sins, we can invite God’s judgment. Read 1 Corinthians 11:29-31.
  • So was the bishop’s entire ministry negated because of one sin? I don’t think so. In Romans 3:23, we are told that all of us have sinned. As Christians, we should be less susceptible to sin as we grow in our faith, but we will never be completely sinless until we are in Heaven with God.
  • So is the bishop with God in Heaven? I think so! If Jesus, while dying on a cross,  promised a thief dying next to him also on a cross, that they would be together in Paradise, then I believe Heaven is where the bishop is this morning! Read the story about this blessed thief in Luke 23:32-43!
  • What can we learn from this story? I guess that depends on where you are in your life. For me, I am learning that marriage is work. Not that I’m not happy, but to honor the vows that I took on Aug. 10 last year is work…I’m praying that God will help me to live up to what I vowed to do…

Any thoughts?

 

Three Churches I’m Giving the Side Eye To This Sunday Morning…

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Although I love the church…I really do…And my father is a pastor…And my uncle is a pastor…And my grandfather was a pastor up until he passed away…From time to time, I have to acknowledge churches that need to consider their ways to put it nicely…To that end, below are three stories about three churches I’m giving the side eye to this Sunday morning…

1. Southern Baptist Pastor Under Fire After Church Staffer Dons Blackface For Boxing Skit During ‘Fundamentalists Conference,’ Pleads Ignorance...To read the story, go to dailymail.co.uk. And if you would like to take a look at the skit, below is the video…

2. Pastor Orders Female Members To Remove Underwear So God Can Enter Their Bodies…To read the story, go to newsone.com.

3. Ex-Westboro Baptist Church Member Grace Phelps-Roper Regularly Attends Synagogue Shabbat Services…To read the story, go to huffingtonpost.com.

Any thoughts?

10 Reasons Why the 2014 Oscars is One to Remember…

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Lupita dancing with Pharrell as he sang “Happy!”

Three days later and I’m still unpacking the cultural celebration that was the 2014 Oscars this past Sunday…There were so many entertaining moments during the actual telecast and as the days go by, more and more drama is unfolding about the backstory featuring the winners of the golden statues…So without further ado, let me share 10 reasons why the 86th Academy Awards is one I will remember…

1. Matthew McConaughey. First of all, Mr. McConaughey is one of those rare actors that women of all races and backgrounds tend to find fetching…to say the least..He has managed to harness a mix of braggadacio aka swag and unaffectedness that makes him seem like the perfect boyfriend…But I digress…The fact that he thanked God first of all in his Oscar acceptance speech just pushed him in a different stratosphere…literally and figuratively…It seemed so genuine unlike some of the rappers who thank God in their acceptance speeches at music awards shows…How you gon thank God when your music is anything BUT godly…

2. Lupita. Yes, I know her full name is Lupita Nyong’o, but her beauty, intelligence and overall effervescence has made her this year’s it girl and capable of being recognized by one name only. Seeing this dark-skinned Kenyan beauty flit about the red carpet in a pale blue Prada whimsy of a dress made me want to time travel back to my 8-year-old self. I would say, “there is a black Cinderella after all” as Cinderella was one of my favorite childhood stories. After seeing Lupita as the dehumanized Patsey in “12 Years a Slave” and seeing that same woman who portrayed her celebrated by winning an Oscar lupitacinderellawas like watching the Cinderella story come to life. And then her speech about dreams being valid no matter where you come from…her story is evidence that dreams don’t only come true in fairy tales.

3. Steve McQueen. First of all, am I the only one who kept expecting to see the white American actor instead of a black man from the UK every time his name was mentioned? How did dude get his name? Was he named after the actor? (Aside: Doesn’t Steve McQueen look like he could be the separated-at-birth twin brother of “Saturday Night Live” cast member Kenan Thompson?) Anywho, “12 Years a Slave” director Steve McQueen became the first black man to win an Academy Award for Best Picture on Sunday! Unfortunately, since then it has been revealed that McQueen is allegedly behind-the-scenes beefing with John Ridley, the screenwriter of the film.

4. John Travolta. Like Cinderella, his name brings back happy memories of my childhood. His flowing thick raven hair and ice-blue but vacant eyes made him the hottest stupid guy on “Welcome Back Kotter!” But as the years have past, he seems to have become Hollyweird. What was up with his mispronunciation of Idina Menzel’s name? He introduced her as Adele Dazeem. And said the name with some weird accent! Hopefully, she has been able to “let it go” since then. My apologies to anyone out there who actually has that name! And if you want to Travoltify your name, go to this link. My name Travoltified is “Jasmine Herdson!” Ha!

5. Pharrell Williams. His Oscar-nominated ditty “Happy” has been one of my favorites since I first heard the song this summer. I swear if you hear this song, you automatically start doing a jig like you’re an Irish person in a St. Patty’s Day Parade…But his tux short set didn’t make me happy. It made me sad… 🙁

6. Ellen. For various reasons including ellenthe two I name below, Ellen was one of the best hosts of the Oscars ever! I love that she doesn’t use her humor to put down people. Only the best comedians can do this!

86th Annual Academy Awards - Show7. Carbs. Nowadays, everyone, particularly the celebrity crowd, is going gluten free and forsaking flour…But I still eat sub sandwiches and pizza and unless God tells me otherwise, I will keep loving my dough…So the fact that Ellen (who hosted this year’s Oscars) ordered pizza for the celebrities in the audience AND they actually ate the pizza is a miracle akin to two fish and fives loaves of bread feeding 5,000!

8. Selfies. Usually, actors take themselves way too seriously, but Ellen was able to get some A-list celebrities to just be regular people in this selfie seen around the world. selfie

9. Peter Nyong’o. Do you see Lupita in this selfie? If you don’t, she’s up there on the far right in between Angelia Jolie and Brad Pitt…And the black guy in the FRONT is her younger brother…How you gon upstage your Oscar-winning sister by positioning yourself in front of her in the selfie that broke Twitter? Have several seats baby brother…

86th Annual Academy Awards - Show10. Cheryl Boone Isaacs.  She was elected president of the Academy of Motion Picture Arts and Sciences last summer. She is the first black woman to be elected to this position and the third woman to helm the Academy altogether! I’m proud to recognize her achievement on this blog during Women’s History Month! In my imagination, she was like Lupita’s fairy godmother who made sure that Lupita was the belle of the ball on Oscar night!

So will you remember this year’s Oscars? Why?

Any thoughts?