Let’s Stay Together?

“Let’s, we oughta stay together,
Loving you whether, whether,
Times are good or bad, happy or sad.”

Al Green in “Let’s Stay Together”

Hello World!

I don’t know about you, but about two Fridays ago, I was up at 4 a.m. watching Kate Middleton, now Catherine, marrying Prince William. I thought the media focused too much on the event in the months leading up to the big day, but the romantic in me was lured to the wedding nonetheless. As I watched the royal pageantry unfold and reflected on one of my favorite stories as a child, “Cinderella,” I could not tear myself away from the television although I had to turn a big project to turn in that day.

Although I was happy for the royal couple, I also could not help but think of the last wedding that captured that much attention: the wedding of Princess Di and Prince Charles. And we know how that ended. I remember watching the wedding with my mother, and although I did not completely understand what was going on, I remember thinking it seemed like a fairy tale unfolding in front of my eyes. I remember being captivated by Princess Di’s wedding ring – the one that Princess Catherine now wears today. And yet their marriage ended horribly. I wish Princess Catherine and Prince William the best, but I do wonder if they will stay together.

Stateside, we have no royalty, but the family that seems to command the most attention other than the Obamas is the Kennedys. When it was announced yesterday that Maria Shriver, a member of the Kennedy family, and former California Gov. Arnold Schwarzenegger are separated after 25 years of marriage, I began wondering what does it take for couples to really last till death do them part…I mean how bad could have it have been to separate after spending almost half of their lives together at this point? I read in an article that the recent deaths of Shriver’s uncle and father and rumors of affairs Schwarzenegger allegedy had with other women could could have contributed to the decision to separate.

As someone who has been a commitmentphobe, news like this and the divorce rate in this country makes me wonder what are the ingredients of a marital coupling that really has lifetime staying power…What do you think?

Any thoughts?

Alice May, It’s Your Day (Happy Mother’s Day to All Mothers)

Hell World,

You know what it is…It’s that special day each year that is set aside to honor the women who not only gave birth us but give their lives for us if we’re lucky and blessed…I am…and so today, I must honor Alice May, my mama!

I’ve been thinking for the last few weeks what should be the focus of today’s post…Yesterday, I went to Southwest Regional Library on Cascade Road to see Atlanta’s Georgia Peach Authors which includes Dwan Abrams, Kendra Norman-Bellamy, Jean Holloway, Gail McFarland, Marisa Monteilh and Electa Rome Parks. It was the first stop on their 2011 tour. Anyway, McFarland, a romance novelist, talked about her blog named Mamaknology which is dedicated to the wise sayings that her mama told her. One of her wise sayings was, “Don’t show the best of what you have to the worst of the world.” Translation: Don’t wear a skirt so short that any and everybody can see your stuff…Wise stuff fo sho…I thought about writing a post about my own my mamaknology, but my mama doesn’t really deliver one-liners like that so I decided not to attempt to bite McFarland’s wonderful idea…

But as is the case for much of my life (and since this is a primarily a religious blog), I found inspiration within the pages of  The Holy Bible…You have probably heard of the Proverbs 31 woman, the bout it bout it wife and mother who is so accomplished from her business to her home life that she must be a myth…Well, I know it’s true because it describes my mother…So indulge me as I rewrite its words, Proverbs 31: 10-31,  to describe my mother…

10 A wife of noble character who can find? 
   Look no further than Alice May Holness. She is worth far more than the fattest platinum diamond ring.
11 Her husband, Dr. Denzil D. Holness, has full confidence in her
   and has anything that a husband could ever want…
12 She brings out the best in him and supports him
   all the days of her life.
13 She is an old school mama that knows how to sew and works with eager hands to make her home a sanctuary.
14 She is like the semi-trailer trucks that crisscross the nation,
   bringing her food from afar from from the DeKalb Farmers Market to her network of Jamaican friends.
15 She goes to bed late and gets up early;
   she provides home-cooked food for her family almost nearly every day
   and has enough left over to give to her friends.
16 She has been selling Avon for decades;
   out of her side hustle she provides extra money for her household.
17 She relishes working hard even though she is retired now,
   her arms are strong for her tasks.
18 She knows that she is working for her family and the Lord,
   and she stays up working later than anyone in her house.
19 She can sew an outfit as easily
   and as she knits together her family.
20 She is always ready to give away something to somebody
   and the trunk of her car is where she stores much of her impromptu inventory .
21 When it snows in Atlanta (which is rare) or the weather is just bad, she has no fear for her household; because her shelves are well stocked and she even has a kerosene lamp
22 She has clean bed linens always ready to be used;
   she is clothed in her best on Sundays.
23 Dr. Holness is respected among men at church,
   where he takes his seat among the deacons and other leaders at the church.
24 She volunteers in Jamaica every summer teaching children at a Vacation Bible School,
   and supplies all the children with arts and crafts, clothing and other items she lovingly collects and brings from the United States.
25 She is clothed with strength and dignity;
   she can laugh at the days to come.
26 She tells it like it is so if you don’t want to hear the truth, don’t step to her.
27 She manages her household
   and even takes care of her grandchildren nearly every weekend.
28 My brothers and I arise and call my mother blessed;
   Dr. Holness, my father, does too, and he praises her:
29 “Many women have it going on,
   but you surpass them all Mama.”
30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;
   but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.
31 Give it up for Alice May because today is her day…

Any thoughts?

P.S. I love this Boyz II Men Song “A Song For Mama”…

P.P.S. I wrote another post about my mother two years which ago which features some really cool pics from back in the day…

Saturday in the A – Featuring the World Natural Hair Health & Beauty Show

Hello World!!!

I DID THAT!!! Well, actually the LORD DID THAT!!! I completed my project that was due yesterday and now I can breathe a little bit…Again, I’m sorry I cannot tell you what’s up yet, but I will say this: as Goapele says in her song, I’m closer to my dreams!!!

Well, for the last two months, with the help of R., all I did was write outside of going to work, working out, paying my bills – the essentials basically…So yesterday, I was itching to get back to hanging out…My line sister T. and I headed to the World Natural Hair Health & Beauty Show which is being held at the Georgia International Convention Center in College Park. The last day is today so you still have a chance to go…If you remember, back in February, I went to  the Bronner Brothers International Hair Show…This show was similar but completely different at the same time…take a look at my photos and tell me what you think!

I know this picture is blurry, but the backdrop captures the essence of our day…

Now that is an AFRO!!! Something about her reminds me of Diana Ross…

Her fro from the side…

How you like that dread hawk?

I have locks, but I don’t think I will ever let them get this long…

Locks of many colors…

I thought I was going to see a lot of Shazzas (Remember Shazza from “A Different World?”) or dudes there, but I think there were more guys at the Bronner Brothers show…


And here he is from the side…very innovative…

I ran into many friends at the show….My friend K. is two weeks from having her little one, and she is still out and about…LOL…(Cute outfit!)

My friend N. and her shoes…We will ignore the pink and green combo…LOL…

I need those pants!!!

Another complete look…I’m thinkin’ early Erykah Badu…What say you?

I like their stilo as well…

I just looove thick hair!

Another head of thick hair…I hope when my hair is completely gray it is this thick!!!

More thick, lush hair!!!

This probably isn’t all hers, but it looks good…Check her top…Yep, it’s made of hair…

Another mohawk…cute, right?

T. and I debated about buying this t-shirt, but we couldn’t find the eye in the image…We see the fro, but we couldn’t see the eye…Do you see it?

T. did buy these earrings…The ball ones…Cute, right?

There were also performances at the show…These little girls rocked the stage with African and Caribbean dances!

The girls and one of their teachers…

Okay, I did run into a few more guys…This guy was rockin’ the man bag, right?!

It was such a pretty day, T. and I took “glamour shots” outside the convention center:)

I love my bag…My feet hurt, but I was cute!