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Broads and Billboards aka Oh YaVaughnie…

Hello World!!!

When this juicy story arrived in my e-mail inbox on Friday courtesy of my girl U, I knew I had to write about it…this story is one for the history books…It should definitely be a chapter, if not section, in the Playa Playa manual….Okay, enough of the intro…

Oracle president Charles Phillips must have had a near coronary when he discovered that his former mistress of nearly nine years literally put their love display by posting a picture of the couple on billboards in San Francisco, where Oracle is based; Atlanta and New York’s Time Square. Apparently YaVaughnie (that name is something huh?) was inspired to do so after discovering that Charles was going back to his wife. But she did not stop there. She created a Web site, that has now been taken down, that included a montage of pictures of the couple complete with a soundtrack of karaoke tunes recorded by the former lovers.

I guess what trips me out about this story beyond the obvious is that Phillips is a black man and the president of Oracle…I mean I know that our president is black…but something about this makes me wonder what our forefathers like Frederick Douglass or Harriet Tubman would say…I’m like you defied the odds against you as a black man and rose the top of a major corporation and managed to be taken down by a woman…But I guess folks died so that we could be free – free to vote and free to cheat if we so desire…

And beyond that, I wonder how does one go about being the mistress to the president of a major corporation…They must have obviously run in the same circles…but what circle exactly did YaVaughnie come from…According to stories I’ve read, YaVaughnie is an actress and a writer…but I cannot find a single acting credit or anything she has written…hmmm…something to ponder…

And beyond that, I wonder how many women are approached by married men…As far as I know, two married men have approached me, but of course, I shut them down…But back to YaVaughnie, I understand her pain to a certain degree but how did she wake up day after day for more than eight years knowing that she was cheating with somebody’s husband, the father of a child…

If had to write a chapter in the Playa Playa Manual about YaVaughnie (I love her name), I would entitle it “It’s a Thin Line…” (Y’all fill in the rest…) I would say, “Playas, when thinking of taking a mistress, one must consider the temperament of the ‘lady’ in question. The same woman who is wild and free will remain wild and free when you decide her services are no longer needed. Please consult the section on Steve McNair.  You must also consider the station in life of the ‘lady’ in question. If she has nothing to lose, chances are you will be losing a great deal should you decide her services are no longer needed. Please consult the section on Tiger Woods.” I could go on and on…

I think there should be a yearly edition of the Playa Playa Manual, and the most infamous cheater of the year should be pictured on the cover. Although 2010 has just begun, I think John Edwards should be on the cover for the 2010 edition. (I’m just having fun now…I’m sorry for those who are offended…) You cheat on your cancer-stricken wife and father a child with the mistress…Really, there are no words…I think former President Bill Clinton should be a consultant for the manual…

But seriously though, it’s all sooo sad….since this is a religious blog, lemme go head and add some applicable scripture to this commentary…

But a man who commits adultery lacks judgment; whoever does so destroys himself. Proverbs 6:32

Any thoughts?

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Dear Pat…

Dear Pat Robertson,

As you well know, last Tuesday, thousands of Haitians were forced to reckon with what is likely the trial of their lives, an earthquake that decimated tens of thousands in a matter of seconds. All around the globe, acts and words of compassion have flowed like a river and will hopefully help restore and replenish what is left on this dusty isle.  But your words, Sir, do not seem to be compassionate or healing.

According to stories I have read, you have accused the Haitian people of bringing this disaster on themselves by “making a pact with the devil.”  Since you claim to be such a Biblical scholar, I know you are familiar with the words of Ecclesiastes 3. In this poignant chapter, God points out that there is a time for everything. There is a “time to weep and a time to laugh.” There is a “time to love and a time to hate.” “There is a time to be a silent and a time to speak.” Given that is a time to weep for Haitians, would it not be the time for us as Christians (or ones who profess to know Jesus Christ) to speak words of love and if we have none, to keep silent?

As a Christian, I do believe that our actions have consquences, but as we Christians also know that Jesus “causes His sun to rise on the evil and the good and sends rain on the righteous and unrighteous.” (Matthew  5:45) But no where in that verse does God say that we human beings can determine who God believes is good and evil or righteous or unrighteous. But apparently, Sir, you have been afforded the unique ability to connect some supposed pact with the devil made hundreds of years ago to what happened last Tuesday. I wonder if you have read Matthew 7 in a while. In its opening verse, we are cautioned not to judge others and that what we use to judges others will be used to judge us.  Because of that verse, I know I cannot judge you. But I do ask to that you look at verses 21-22. According to those verses, everyone that says “Lord, Lord” and professes to speak on His behalf and prophesy in His name does not necessarily know the Lord.

Finally, I want to point out Luke 14 to you. In this chapter, the religious leaders of the day, named Pharisees, asked Jesus if it was lawful to heal on the Sabbath. In fact, they brought a sick man before him. We Christians know that Jesus in His lovingkindness commands us to rest on the Sabbath to replenish ourselves after six days of work. And so the Pharisees who were known to love the letter of the law rather than the spirit of the law expected Jesus to say that not even healing could be done on the Sabbath. Jesus did not even respond in words then. Instead, he healed the man and sent him on his way. And then he spoke. “If one of you has a son or an ox that falls into a well on the Sabbath day, will you not immediately pull him out?” The Pharisees did not have anything to say.

Pact with the devil or not Pat, I wonder if you had family members who lived in Haiti, would you have uttered those words. Somehow, I doubt it…Again, I don’t want to judge you as that is not my right, but I do hope that you consider the words of the Bible as you speak in the future. And let us not forget that while we are not commanded to judge, we are commanded to pray. Let’s pray for the Haitians and help in their healing.

Sincerely-

Jacqueline J. Holness