Count Your Many Blessings…(aka Happy Thanksgiving 2010!)

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Jenise & her new hubby on their big day...

I know the day after tomorrow, the United States will be awash in the commencement of the Christmas season. And it is the most wonderful time of the year, but I think the Lord does want us to celebrate His many blessings that He has lavished on us…And Thanksgiving is the perfect time to do so…The best way that I know to celebrate His many blessings is to count them or make a gratitude list…And let me share a secret with you…When life is hard and nothing seems to be going the way that you had expected or hoped for, making a gratitude list has an uncanny way of reminding you that your circumstances could be worse, thus inspiring hope for the future…And without further introduction, I present my Top 20 gratitude list for 2010…(in no particular order…)

1. Jehovah-Rohi(My Shepherd), Jehovah-Jireh(My Provider) and Jehovah-Shalom(My Peace). I’m thankful for the relationship I have with the Lord, who is my savior and my friend. Even when I don’t understand His ways, which is often, I just couldn’t live on this Earth without Him…

Jenise's bridesmaids on the way to the wedding in the limo...

2. The sermon I heard on New Year’s Eve about Joshua finally leading the Israelites into the Promised Land after they wandered for 40 years in the desert…This sermon inspired me to claim my entrance into my own personal promised land this year, and it is happening saints, Hallelujah!

3. My family. I don’t know how people live hundreds of miles away from their loved ones…My family is my rock…

4. R, who has been my biggest cheerleader this year…

5. The wedding of Jenise, one of my best friends…After suffering a heartbreaking relationship loss years ago, she is finally the wife to a man who truly loves her…

6. All of my girls…you know who you are…

7. Nevaeh Publishing LLC

8. Tiffany Warren and The Faith & Fiction Retreat

9. My favorite author, Catherine Marshall, whose words and influence continue to inspire me even after her death…

10. My job…

11. Traveling mercies…

The beautiful bride...

12. My formal financial coach who has taught the value of keeping track of every penny and making the best use of my resources…

13. My various spiritual and religious communities…

14. My line sister, Lola, who has an incredible story of hope, faith & victory…

15. Inspired Sistah, whose words and encouragement has inspired me to live on top of the world…Go Tangie Go!

16. All of my many adventures this year from covering the ABC News Nightline Face-Off”: Why Can’t a Successful Black Woman Find a Man? to calming down a chick who wanted to start a fight with one of my girls at the Phipps movie theater where we went to see Sex and the City 2. Hilarious…and pitiful at the same time…

17. The 31st Annual Christian Women’s Retreat. I thoroughly enjoyed being the featured speaker, particularly since I had to study this Bible verse…

I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service.  And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.

Romans 12:1-2

18. My blog. Not only is it a way to satisfy some of my creative urges, I have learned so much from writing and the people who appreciate my writing…thank you very much…

19. Spiritual Discernment…

20. Books…They are one of the loves of my life…

Any thoughts?

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For Colored Girls…My Two Cents…

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Well, I finally saw Tyler Perry’s “For Colored Girls” last night with my girl “I” so I feel I should offer my two cents about the film…First of all, let me get this out of the way. No, I have not seen Ntozake Shange original play, “For Colored Girls Who Have Considered Suicide When the Rainbow is Enuf,” (boo, hiss, I know, I know, get over it…) So admittedly, I am bit stunted in my ability to grasp the whole concept of the film…

When I first heard the film was coming out, I was not sure if I was even going to see the film…I had imagined it would be a modern day “The Women of Brewster Place.” I love you Oprah, but I wasn’t enthralled by that television movie although I applaud Lady O for getting it made…But when I understood that fellow UGA alum Omari Hardwick was in the film, and I saw all the buzz on Facebook about it, I knew I should go ahead and spend my ten bucks…For the record, UGA alums are doin’ big things in Hollywood. I see you Omari, Keith Robinson (“Dreamgirls”), Candace Afia (“Grey Anatomy” – she also played MLK Jr’s older sister in “The Boy King.” Only those originally from the A would know that though.) and IronE Singleton, ( “The Blind Side). Go Bulldawgs…Okay, I know I have digressed…

Let me start of with what I liked or appreciated about the movie. I appreciated that Tyler Perry was able to give work to so many black women in particular and black actors in general…Whatever people have to say about him, he is offering water in what can be a desert for black actors. I did think each character’s story was interesting and compelling their own way. I was especially taken in by Anika Noni Rose’s character Yasmine in the film maybe because of all of the characters I related to her the most. She is basically a sunny personality who happens to run across the wrong dude who date rapes her…While she is being interviewed by a police officer after the rape, she recites what seems to be some of the lines from the original poem on which the play is based. I was moved when she talked about always preparing for danger from someone that you don’t know, only to be end up being assaulted by someone that you do…

I also enjoyed Kimberly Elise’s performance as Crystal. I don’t care what movie Elise is in from “Beloved” to “Diary of a Mad Black Woman,” this actress can do gnawing pain and agony like no other…I won’t tell what you caused the pain and agony since I already revealed a plot tidbit earlier…But I will say this: her pain and agony were well justified, particularly when she realizes that her own frailties and perhaps selfishness played a part in the tragic event…

Loretta Devine’s character Juanita had me laughing although it probably shouldn’t have…Although the character was probably in her 50s, she was just learning a lesson that all women should have properly learned at the latest by 35 years old – When a man shows who he is, you’d be smart to believe to him –  no matter how good he makes you feel…There is something about Ms. Loretta that I really love even she always seems to play a similar character in all of her films and television programs from “A Different World” to “Waiting to Exhale.” In her roles, she always seems to be on the verge of blushing or nervously giggling until she is pushed beyond her boundaries and then she erupts in a sister-girl rant… I like her because she just seems the type of person who would be the same no matter what circle of people that she happened to be surrounded by…

And finally, I loved – let me say this again – I LOVED Ms. Janet’s outfits even if she channeled Michael in this film. Her outfits were so fierce, I probably would not have been surprised if Janet I mean Jo did not break out into a choreographed dance from one of her videos…Her makeup although heavy was pure razor-sharp artistry…Her wardrobe was a true boss chick’s dream – from her matrix-like leather blazer to her red bottom stilettos…

So what didn’t I like…I said this before on my blog…I’m not a fan of musicals…so what, who cares…I guess because it messes with my sensibilities when a character just breaks out in song in the middle of what seemed like a regular play…Probably an idiosyncrasy but whatever…This idiosyncrasy is the same reason why I was jarred when the characters, who for most of the movie spoke in regular modern day English, all of a sudden started reciting poetry. I almost felt like the audience should have been signaled before the characters switched gears…I mean it did feel like you were cruising in a manual car, and the car suddenly revs up when the driver decides to operate the vehicle in a different gear…It just made for a disjointed experience…But again, maybe I’m just not deep like that…

Whoopi Goldberg’s character Alice was a black version of the mother in the 1976 movie “Carrie” with her hyper-religious lunacy…When Alice poured oil on her daughter’s head in a scary attempt to rid her of the devil in her, I half expected the daughter to start summoning her telekinetic powers to destroy everyone in the film as Carrie did…But Alice’s daughter Tessa was not Carrie. Instead she just ran out the apartment screaming which was probably the most normal response to Alice’s crazy character in the movie…Alice was so predictable in one scene that I even called out her next line in the theater before she spoke it…I get why she was tragic character in the film and even one that should be explored, but I imagine that Ms. Shange’s intent for this character was much more nuanced than presented in this film…

I could go on, but I feel like I have said enough…In sum, it’s a film worth seeing and I applaud Tyler Perry’s effort although there were some contrived elements in the film…

Note to the brothers who may have seen this film or heard about it and are now criticizing it (READ Courtland Milloy): Contrary to what Malloy asserted, this is not the year to bash the black man…In fact, if anything, it is the year  to scrutinize the single black woman…do I need to mention the ABC “Nightline” special and the media frenzy that resulted again? Maybe I am a bit sensitive because I am a single black woman…but regardless, sometimes black men hurt black women…and sometimes black women hurt black men …and more often than not, people of all races hurt people of all races..stop trippin’. Everyone has a right to tell their story…Hmm…I wonder if it is true…maybe a hit dog will holler…just kidding…For real dough, this is just one movie – not an indictment of the black man…And for the record, I love me some black men…

Any thoughts?

Entering into the Promised Land…

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It’s November y’all…2010 is on. its. way.out…I can’t even believe it…It seems like it was just last night that I went to Watch Night Service at my church. And the reason I bring that up is because the pastor spoke on Joshua and how finally he led his people into the Promised Land after they wandered in the wilderness for 40 years due to their own fear and disobedience…

What I got from his message is that it is my time to finally enter into the promised land…What does that mean for me? I cannot share all of that now, but someday I will. What I will tell you now is that I am no longer hoping, wishing & praying for my dreams to come true…Instead I am standing on His word and expecting my dreams to come to life right now. (I am still confident of this: I will see the goodness of the LORD in the land of the living. Psalm 27:13)

But the pastor did have a word of caution about entering into the promised land…Before God allowed Joshua and his people to enter in, they had some requirements to meet…below is what the Lord said to Joshua…

6 “Be strong and courageous, for you are the one who will lead these people to possess all the land I swore to their ancestors I would give them. 7 Be strong and very courageous. Be careful to obey all the instructions Moses gave you. Do not deviate from them, turning either to the right or to the left. Then you will be successful in everything you do. 8 Study this Book of Instruction continually. Meditate on it day and night so you will be sure to obey everything written in it. Only then will you prosper and succeed in all you do. 9 This is my command—be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid or discouraged. For the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.” Joshua 1:6-9

I believe the Lord was telling me that if I will enter into my promised land, I must stay in the will of God and be strong, courageous, fearless and unshakable…So yes, the Lord’s promise to me is conditional…He promises, but I have to meet the conditions…

So all of this pondering on promises made and promises kept has me thinking of the elections yesterday…It seems that people are trying to punish President Obama for what they perceive as his unrealized promises of hope and change…And people are now attempting “to take their government back.” I’m no political pundit so I will save all of the thorough analysis for those that are, but I will say a few things from a spiritual point of view…No politician can ever perfectly keep all of his promises – even those that have promised to take their government back. The Bible has many references in which we are warned about lightly making promises because we human beings have a difficult time keeping them. At the end of the day, only God enables us to keep promises…I mean, we cannot even wake up in the morning without His permission…(See Matthew 5:36 and think on that…)

But back to President Obama and his promises of hope and change…I happen to be one that believes that he is diligently working to keep his promises, but we have conditions to meet on our end. He is not our savior and cannot accomplish miracles without our support. Are we supporting his policies with our votes? (I guess this line may be a day late and a dollar short)…Are we attending city council or school board meetings or otherwise taking part in our local government? (All politics begin at the local level.) Are we educating ourselves about the real issues that this country faces or are we latching on to catch phrases and acting like we know more than what we really do? Are we simply voting for a party because we always have instead of paying attention to the actual candidates? Are we praying for those in authority? (1 Timothy 2:1-2)

I must say as I inventory my actions based on these questions, I have a ways to go…

However, although the balance of power has shifted at a national level, I do believe that this shift did not take God by surprise. He is always working behind the scenes in the course of human history…I don’t know what the end result will be. But it seems to me that at the very least,  the opposing powers are now forced to work together and neither power can entirely lay the blame at the other’s feet.

Okay, let me get off my virtual political soapbox…

We are free to claim the promises of God, but let us not the ignore the conditions that must be met…Delight yourself in the Lord and THEN He will give you the desires of your heart…All things work together for good IF you love the Lord and are called according to His purpose…You will be saved IF you believe in the Lord…

Any thoughts?

P.S. I realize that I haven’t blogged in over a week, and I apologize…I hope I haven’t stayed away too long…I offer Michael Jackson’s “I Wanna Be Where You Are” as a peace offering…lol…love this song!