Why ‘Insecure’ Actress Yvonne Orji is Right To Be Happy Following Her Breakup With Emmanuel Acho…

Hello World,

Insecure actress Yvonne Orji is not my friend in real life, but she is my friend in my head for many reasons. I interviewed the Christian actress for THE LOOKOUT in 2017, and I really admired her stance on virginity. This is what she told me:

“From the time I was 17 until now that I’m 33 going on 34, I’ve seen too much. I’ve seen the hand of God over the years in my life, and this one thing that he asks of me. I mean he asks many things of us. But this one thing [virginity] that is a roadblock for so many people, he’s been so faithful to me in the darkest of my days, it’s no biggie.”

Although I am married now, I was single for several years before then and I know her struggle. Also, since Yvonne is a first generation American born of Nigerian parents, I identify with her on that topic as well. My parents are Jamaican, but I was born in America. She has even created a show based on her experience as a first generation American. Below is more about her show:

Aside from this series, Yvonne is also developing her own half-hour sitcom, FirstGen, which is executive produced by media mogul Oprah Winfrey and actor David Oyelowo. Semibiographical, the show features a Nigerian girl who drops out of medical school for a stand-up comedy career and the shenanigans that ensue after her strict African mother discovers her plans. “This is my vision so it’s a very family-friendly show.”

If you would like to read the entire story, go to lookoutmag.com.

So in July 2018 when I learned that Yvonne had a new boyfriend after openly expressing her desire to meet her mate, I was hoping he was the one and wrote a happy blog post about it – Christian Actress Yvonne Orji Shares Prayer She Used to Attract Her New Boyfriend Emmanuel Acho! Emmanuel seemed like he could be the one she was waiting for…I mean his name means Messiah first of all and he is a Christian! And then they had the Nigerian connection. His father is from Nigeria. Also, although he works as an ESPN analyst, he has an artistic side as he can sing and play the piano! And on top of all of that, both are committed to charitable causes. Yvonne worked in Liberia with Population Services International, and Emmanuel worked in Nigeria with Living Hope Christian Ministries! And to put it all together in a pretty package, as a former Philadelphia Eagles’ linebacker, her man was all swole and stuff! When Yvonne announced their relationship on Instagram, she even said, “Jesus out here answering prayers on a Sunday.” He did seem like the answer to prayer…

But Yvonne Orji recently told her friend and author Luvvie Ajayi, who also has Nigerian heritage, on their Jesus and Jollof podcast that Emmanuel is no longer her man. Yvonne and Emmanuel have broken up. This is what she said about it, according to madamenoire.com:

“I just have to say, the reason I am so good and so happy is because I know how God works,” she said. “I have seen God’s MO so many times, that like in the way that you can be like, ‘Aw man, I thought this was it! I thought this was the one!’ God be like, ‘Oh that’s what you thought? I got the goods for you.’ It happened in my career when someone offered me a show and I was like, ‘This is it!’ and then the show went to nowhere. I got borderline depressed. Cut to Insecure. Cut to my life has changed.”

I believe Yvonne is right. Emmanuel may have been the prototype, but the finished product is on the way…and soon too…I’ve seen God do this many times in many areas of my life as well…But as it relates to romantic relationships…I remember in November 2009. I was despondent after yet another relationship blew up in my face…I had suffered through many breakups before but this one really took me out. This particular boyfriend/manfriend (I mean he was in his 30s at the time…) was one who I had dated before. When we first dated, he told me that he did not want to have a relationship. I wasn’t happy with his stance, but I respected his honesty. We remained friends for years. And then he changed his mind. My feelings hadn’t changed and I was available. It was so on until it wasn’t…It seemed cosmically cruel for life to play out that way…

But February 2010, the week of Valentine’s Day, I went out on a first date with the man who would become my husband…It was literally months after the breakup…Nothing but God…And if He did it for me, He can do it for you…

So Yvonne you better be happy because I am claiming on your behalf that the one worth waiting for is on the way!

Any thoughts?

 

Legendary The Winans’ Member Carvin Winans to Release First Solo Album March 1! (INTERVIEW)

It's Charity from 'Greenleaf's' Real Life Daddy Y'all Not Bishop...

Hello World,

Last week when I was among those who watched the legendary gospel group The Winans perform time-tested hits such as “Tomorrow” and “It’s Time” at the 20th Annual Super Bowl Gospel Celebration, I had no idea that within a couple of days of that awesome performance, I would have the chance to interview Carvin Winans! But as Koryn Hawthorne, who also performed at the celebration, saaangs, “Won’t He Do It?!” But back to Carvin, who will be releasing his first solo album “In the Softest Way,” on March 1… The first single “Once in a Lifetime” from Carvin’s album has been released and made #25 on Billboard!

However, if you are unfamiliar with the illustrious history of Carvin Winans, as they say, let me present him to some and introduce him to others…

Following in the footsteps of his parents who were very powerful singers, Carvin Winans started singing at the tender age of four. The third of 10 extremely talented children and a twin, Carvin quickly showed an extraordinary gift for writing and singing. His love for God transcended in the beautiful songs that he wrote.

A devoted and loving father of six (including OWN’s Greenleaf’s Deborah Joy Winans), the Detroit native made his musical debut in 1981 as a member of the world-renowned Winans family. He has been in the music industry for more than 30 successful years. He first debuted with his brothers on Light Records with the release of “Introducing The Winans,” which was nominated for a Grammy. The group followed up with the release of “Long-time Coming,” which also was nominated for a Grammy.

In 1985, Carvin was recognized with the most prestigious accolade in the industry when he won a Grammy Award for the album “Tomorrow” as he wrote the title track. He and the brothers signed with Quincy Jones at Quest records in 1986 where they recorded six albums, four of which were Grammy Award winners. These include “Live at Carnegie Hall” and “The Winans Return” — the latter of which was certified GOLD. As a group, “The Winans” have been nominated for a Grammy a total of nine times! Carvin also has received several NAACP Image awards, Soul Train awards, Dove awards, and Stellar awards, as a member of The Winans.

Below is my interview with Carvin:

1.   You’ve written and released many hit songs and recorded many albums; why a solo album and why now? What inspired you to make this album?
I have always wanted to do a solo album, but I was waiting on God’s timing.  After my brother Ronald passed, I really didn’t want to sing anymore, but after my last album with my brothers Marvin and Bebe, my desire came back and my wife encouraged me to go for it!
2.   You come from a family known worldwide for making gospel music, but your new album is a departure from the music you have previously made. What made you choose the genre of adult contemporary music? How do you feel your fan base will feel about this departure? (Carvin has written songs for Whitney Houston such as “Love Is” and Regina Belle such as “Make it Like it Was” and sang background vocals on Michael Jackson’s “Man in the Mirror” and Michael McDonald’s “Love Has no Color.”) 
I chose a different genre because I wanted to reach a larger audience and spread the message of love to everyone, not just those who listen to gospel or attend church — not that I don’t value that audience.  My goal is to lead people to Jesus through the power of song as Jesus didn’t just preach to the church; he ministered to the saved and the unsaved.  When you listen to the words in my songs on this new album, I’m sure it won’t offend anyone.
3.   What is your favorite song on this new album (which includes 11 songs) and why?
My favorite song is “You Blow My Mind (A Song for Chérie). I wrote this song for my beautiful wife Chérie for our wedding. I had never felt such love before when it came to a relationship. I just wanted people to feel in song what my heart was feeling all along.
4.   You worked with a few music “heavyweights” such as Stevie Wonder, Kenny G and Jimmy Jam and Terry Lewis. How did they get involved with this project and what did they bring to the table?   
Stevie and I have worked together before on The Winans song “Everyday the Same” and I consider him a dear friend. I reached out to him, and he loved the song and was kind enough to play harmonica on there for me.  He brought my song “If You Only Knew My Heart”  to another level and I’m so very thankful!  Kenny G has also worked with me before on my song “When You Cry.” He added his gift to the title track “In the Softest Way” without hesitation. This was my first time working with Jam & Lewis; they are truly such amazing producers. My wife got a kick out of being in the studio, knowing that Janet had sat there before. Lol!
5.   Speaking of your family, I know this is your first solo album, but was your family involved in any way even if it was only giving advice?
The first song on the album is a duet with my twin brother Marvin. We complement each other and feed off each other so well. I’ve been singing with him pretty much all of my life. I hope one day God will bless us to do a twin album together.
6.   Any touring plans? 
I am working on some opportunities to tour this year so I can connect with my fans all over the world.
7.   Your daughter Deborah Joy Winans stars on my favorite drama on TV’s “Greenleaf.” What is it like to see your daughter in the role of “Charity,” especially as she is carrying on the family legacy in a slightly different way? 
I’m proud of her and her accomplishments.  She worked hard in college and honed in on her craft, which is blessing her in her career today.
Any additional thoughts? 
I would like to give thanks to God for all that He has done for me and the people He has placed in my life to bring my project to life. Thank you to Jeff Walter for all of his support on this project. I am really looking forward to hearing from my fans after the release of my album on March 1; they will hear a sound different to my music in the past. I hope it blesses them.

Check out “Once in a Lifetime” from “In the Softest Way” on soundcloud.com

And follow Carvin on Facebook, Twitter & Instagram

Any thoughts?

Will Christian Couples Make Love to David & Tamela Mann’s Clean R&B Love Music?

Hello World,

I know I haven’t posted in about a week but your girl was sick with the flu. I mean I was in-the-fetal-position, hubby-had-to-spoon-feed-soup-to-me-sick, but I’m almost completely well again, praise God! And today’s post got me snorting over here and as the Word says a “joyful heart is good medicine!”

So last night I received this Christian Post article in my inbox from a Facebook friend: David and Tamela Mann Release R&B Album Offering Christian Couples Clean Music to ‘Make Love’ To by Jeannie Law.

Apparently the gospel powerhouse couple feels there is a void of clean music that Christian couples can listen to the bedroom. So in an effort to continue to commemorate their 30-year wedding anniversary (which has included release of their new memoir, Us Against the World: Our Secrets to Love, Marriage, and Family ), the couple has now released their first R&B album “Us Against the World.”

“It was different for me, it was really different, even though I was happy to think about the man that I love [while singing],” Tamela told The Christian Post. “It made me even look at him differently, and in all honesty, we tested it out and it really worked.”

“It’s making baby music,” David interjected about the album.

Produced by the couple and their son, David Mann, Jr., Tamela said her 30-year-old son pegged the album, “back in the day” music. They were so happy to be able to provide a project like this for the body of Christ.

“Even though you knew we were talking about love, it wasn’t nasty love music,” Tamela explained.

All of that sounds good, but Hello Beautiful is reporting that Black Twitter is clowning the clean love music from the Manns…Below are a few of the most hilarious comments in my opinion…

I bet you snorted out your coffee reading those comments, right? LOL

Before you judge, check out the first single “Good Love” below…

So what y’all think? I like the song and I love the Manns, but I’ma be honest, the only man I want in my bedroom is my hubby. The same people who are responsible for taking me to the King won’t help my king take me…I can’t go from hearing you sang blessings and glory and honor, they all belong to You and then you sanging I don’t see nothing wrong with a little bump and grind…

And what’s wrong with “nasty love music” anyway when it comes to what Christian marrieds are doing in the bedroom? The Word says the marriage bed is undefiled so if a Christian couple decides they enjoy “nasty love music” in bedroom, what is wrong with that? And maybe the Bible is even suggesting that Christian couples can listen to songs like Jay & Bey’s “Drunk in Love” in the bedroom?

Have y’all seen this verse?

“She is like a beautiful deer, a lovely fawn. Let her love satisfy you completely. Stay drunk on her love.” Proverbs 5:19

Do you prefer “Good Love” or “Drunk in Love?” Do you prefer clean love music or nasty love music in the bedroom? Or can you listen to Bey & Jay and David & Tamela Mann in the bedroom?

Any thoughts?