Why Tabitha Brown Was Right for Her Classy Clap Back But Wendy Williams Wasn’t Completely Wrong Either…

Hello World,

Other than the surprise release of now disgraced entertainment icon Bill Cosby from prison last week and the resulting controversy when his former television wife Phylicia Rashad tweeted her support of his release, Wendy Williams coming for vegan influencer and actress Tabitha Brown was the talk in the pop culture universe!

I won’t get into the former because I just don’t feel like it, but discussing the latter is my sweet spot: pop culture, relationships and Christianity…So let’s go…

First of all, Wendy Williams was just doin’ Wendy when she shared her opinion of Tabitha Brown’s recent Instagram announcement that she had retired her husband Chance Brown from his job with the Los Angeles Police Department where he has worked for 15 years. Apparently, he took the job shortly after they moved to LA to support her dream of becoming an actress. While she appreciated his support, she was never comfortable with the fact that her husband had to wear a bullet-proof vest to work. If you haven’t seen the original announcement, check it out below because it will give you some context for Wendy’s commentary.

 

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So on The Wendy Williams Show on Thursday, she critiqued Tabitha’s announcement during her hot topics. First of all, for those who were aghast that Wendy fixed her mouth to critique Tabitha, c’mon y’all! That is what she does for a living. Her mouth is her money maker. She is always going to say things that shock people because she comes from the world of being a shock jock. So just get over that aspect of it. Tabitha Brown, conversely, has a created her lane from being sugary sweet and that’s commendable because it’s probably much harder to do. But although Tabitha is known for being sweet, chile her classy come back probably cut Wendy to the core because it was complete from a Christian point of view. Check out Wendy’s initial commentary and then Tabitha’s clap back below…

It was complete for a few reasons:

1. She started off with, “God bless you.” Anytime someone responds to you with “God bless you” and then continues from there, but you ’bout to get a Christian cuss out to include a church hug at the end!

2. She addresses her pain. One thing I love about my savior Jesus Christ is that whenever people who were in pain came to Jesus (and we all are in some form or fashion), he always addressed their pain. Chile, Wendy came for Tabitha, who is a Christian, so Tabitha felt compelled to address her pain. In her deep Southern accent, she said, “Ooh, my God, the pain this woman must be in. Wendy, the pain you must be in to feel this way.”

3. She gives her a history lesson. She tells her that unlike Wendy and her former husband Kevin, Tabitha and her husband Chance, married for 23 years now, have been broke together longer than they have been conventionally successful. They truly struggled before they succeeded is how she put it. Additionally, Chance only got his stable job as a police officer to support Tabitha who had more whimsical aspirations i.e. being a creative. They agreed that once she achieved her dreams, she could, in turn, support him in his dreams. And now that Tabitha is making money as a vegan influencer and as an actress on The Chi. Lastly but most importantly, none of it means anything without having God being first in their lives and marriage. Her exact words were, “It’s also the power of allowing God to be first in your marriage. That’s how it remains successful, we keep Him first. He is first in our marriage. Not money, not business, not success, but God. He’s first.”

4. She wraps up with prayer. Now in some Christian circles, prayer requests are as revealing as gossip. When some people ask you to pray for someone else, in the very next breath, some people will spill all of the tea of exactly why that person needs prayer. Being that Tabitha is gracious, her prayer request didn’t reveal it all, but it did reveal enough for Wendy to know that Tabitha knows that Wendy’s failed marriage is in no way comparable to Tabitha’s marriage. This is what she said: “I pray that love finds you. True love. I pray it finds you, and it holds you tight. I pray that someone will love you enough to see you when you are not well, to see when you need true support, to see you when you need compassion, to see you when you need kindness. I pray that somebody loves you enough to sacrifice their life for you. I pray that type of love finds you so that you can understand why I don’t want my husband to put his life on the line anymore, wearing a bulletproof vest if he don’t have to, and if that’s not his desire.”

And it was all said with a smile. I’m sure that God was pleased with how Tabitha conducted herself in her complete and classy clap back…And what Tabitha said is true, when Christ is the head of your marriage or even just the head of your life, He will lead you to do things that other people will not comprehend…

That being said, God also gave him men egos, which are often wrapped up in how they provide for their families. And the fact is, while some men may say otherwise, many husbands, deep down, do not want their wives to be the primary breadwinner.

That was Wendy’s experience. And this is what she said: “Nope! I was married to one of those. ‘I make the money!’ and so on and so forth…’Go live your dreams! Buy a business! Stay with me, but go, go, go!’ See how that turned out. I predict that this marriage is going to be on real rocky ground in a moment. ‘Live your dream’… Then they invest in stuff and they lose the money. They invest in something else then the money gets swindled or stolen. Then they invest again and he comes home and throws his bag down. She’s like ‘What? What?’ And he’s like, ‘I can’t do this and this is your fault. You’re over here making all of your money and stuff, and you had me quit my job.’ ‘And I can’t find my live like a child.’ You understand what I’m saying? No, you work. Being a cop was a big part of his identity, he liked it but she came to him and said that.”

And they get resentful and act out as a result. In Wendy’s case, her ex-husband had a whole baby with his side chick although from her own account, he was a cheater from the beginning. His extreme behavior aside, it is a proven fact that men prefer to the primary breadwinners in a household. See an excerpt below from “Men Get Stressed When Their Wives Make More Money Than They Do” by Cory Stieg:

The number of women who are the primary breadwinners in their families is on the rise. According to 2018 research from the U.S. Census Bureau, in one in four heterosexual married couples, women make more than their male partners.

But a new study from the University of Bath suggests that this trend is impacting male partners’ mental health. The study examined 6,000 American heterosexual married couples over the course of 15 years to see how this shift has impacted people’s physical and mental health, life satisfaction and relationships.

They found that men felt the most anxious when they were the sole breadwinner in the family, and the least stressed when their women partners were contributing 40% to the household income. But as women made more money past that point, men become “increasingly uncomfortable” and stressed, according to the findings.
Read the rest at cnbc.com.
I know that not every. single. husband. has a hissy fit when his wife has more coins, but generally speaking that is the case. As society continues to modernize, sometimes to our detriment, we still have to respect how men are made and have been made. And Oprah has said the same. See an excerpt of “Oprah Winfrey Explains Why She Never Got Married to Stedman Graham” by Peter Sblendorio below:

“We would not have stayed together, because marriage requires a different way of being in this world,” she continued. “His interpretation of what it means to be a husband and what it would mean for me to be a wife would have been pretty traditional, and I would not have been able to fit into that.”

Winfrey, 63, didn’t expound any further about what exactly being a traditional husband and wife means to Graham, but clearly the longtime TV personality isn’t exactly traditional by anyone’s standards with a net worth of over $3 billion.

Read the rest at nydailynews.com.

In a traditional marriage, typically the husband is the primary breadwinner. And I believe this practice makes it trickier for a highly successful woman to get married. Not impossible by any means but tricky though.

So while I agree with Tabitha Brown’s classy clap back, I also agree Wendy Williams was not completely wrong in her assessment about the general nature of men although she is likely misguided about Chance Brown, who seems miles away from Kevin Hunter. Thank God…

And that’s all I have to say about that…

Any thoughts?

 

Hosted by BeBe & Deborah Joy Winans aka Charity Greenleaf, OWN To Premiere Easter Gospel Music Special ‘Our OWN Easter’ on Tues, March 30 Featuring Fantasia, Anthony Hamilton, Kirk Franklin & More

Hello World,

The most triumphant date of our Christian faith is a week from today! To honor Easter, OWN: Oprah Winfrey Network announced  that “Our OWN Easter,” a one-hour gospel music special celebrating the glory of the Resurrection will premiere on the network Tuesday, March 30 at 9 p.m. ET/PT following the critically-acclaimed drama series, “Queen Sugar.”

“Our OWN Easter” from executive producer Dr. Holly Carter, Rikki Hughes and Relevé Entertainment, an All3Media America company, will showcase some of the most renowned gospel and R&B artists in music and entertainment as they commemorate Easter in their “OWN” unique way, blending sunrise service traditions with modern performances.

The spiritual celebration will be hosted by gospel royalty and GRAMMY Award winner BeBe Winans and his talented multi-hyphenated niece Deborah Joy Winans who starred as Charity Greenleaf in the hit OWN series “Greenleaf” for five seasons.  It will feature powerful, uplifting, and iconic performances by such artists as Fantasia, CeCe Winans, Kirk Franklin, Anthony Hamilton and The Hamiltones, Ledisi, Travis Greene, Osby Berry, Jonathan McReynolds, with appearances by Cedric the Entertainer, Michelle Williams and others. Viewers will also experience inspiring spoken word from prominent faith leaders Bishop J. Drew Sheard, Pastor William Murphy and Priscilla Shirer.

Check out the trailer below!

“Our OWN Easter” is the second special for OWN produced with Dr. Holly Carter and Relevé Entertainment. The first special, “Our OWN Christmas,” hosted by Meagan Good and DeVon Franklin, premiered on OWN in December and was the #1 non-news cable telecast in the time period among African-American W18+, households and total viewers.

Holly Carter is the founder of Relevé Entertainment, which specializes in television/film production, talent partnerships, and brand development. The company consistently delivers high-quality, “break-through” family and faith-based programming that engages national audiences. Recently, Carter created and executive produced “The Clark Sisters: First Ladies of Gospel,” the highest-rated original TV movie of 2020.

Any thoughts?

After Oprah’s Interview with Prince Harry & Meghan Markle, Interracial Marriage is a Hot Topic!

Hello World,

Were you among the 17. 1 million USA viewers who watched the Oprah interview with Prince Harry and Meghan Markle Sunday or the 11.3 million viewers in the UK on Monday?!!! I am a member of the former group.  I’ve been fascinated with Prince Harry & Meghan Markle’s love story since before they were married. I think I have written about them at least three times on this blog. See those blog posts below:

Why Prince Harry and Meghan Markle’s ‘Megxit’ is a Modern-Day ‘Leave and Cleave’ in Action…

7 Reasons Why Prince Harry & Meghan Markle’s Royal Wedding Was the Best Royal Wedding Ever!!!

Why the ‘Good Morning America’ Headline About Meghan Markle and ‘Hope’ for Black Women Wasn’t Offensive To Me…

After their interview with the queen of American television, none other than Oprah Winfrey, the fascination continues…I’m also deeply troubled by what was revealed…namely, the ugly racism that led to Meghan wanting to commit suicide and Prince Harry extricating himself from the monarchy to protect his wife and children – born and unborn. Here in the U.S., we’re now having conversations about passing and colorism. While Meghan likely enjoyed some privileges as a lighter-skinned black woman in the US, her lighter skin seemingly did not afford those same privileges in the U.K.

In the U.K., they are having discussions about what it means to be royal and does race have anything to do with it. And to see the hysterical reaction to the interview such as the continued and weird vitriol that that Piers Morgan spews whenever Meghan Markle is mentioned, it’s no wonder that Megxit was warranted. He should be leaving Good Morning Britain and his former co-host Alex Beresford was right to challenge his obsession with hating her…

See the exchange below…It’s sooo crazy…

Even Christian media in the UK is in a tizzy about it all…Premier Christianity magazine has had to issue an apology for its initial response…See an excerpt below…

Yesterday evening, shortly before the Harry and Meghan interview aired, we published a blog on this page, entitled ‘5 reasons you shouldn’t watch the Meghan and Harry interview’.

We have now removed this article and would like to unreservedly apologise for it, for the offence and hurt it has caused, and the damage it has done to the witness of Christians. We were wrong to publish it.

Although we initially only apologised for one phrase within the piece, we now understand the problems with the blog were far wider than one phrase. It was not a helpful piece of commentary, but instead has resulted in understandable anger and pain, especially for those who have experienced racism.

My own personal view on the Harry and Meghan interview can be read here: “7 lessons Christians can learn from Meghan and Harry’s interview“. While I know this cannot repair the damage already done, my hope is this new article will prove to be a much more helpful contribution to these issues than what was published before.

Read the rest on premierchristianity.com.

In the wake of this time period of racial reckoning that has spread across the pond, I thought I would share this article below…

“What Does the Bible Say about Interracial Marriage?” by Emma Danzey

In a time with a large number of questions in regard to racism, one might ask if it is ok for a man and a woman of different ethnicities to marry? What does the Bible say about interracial marriage? I recently was at a small gathering and a white woman who hosted the event was telling us her hardship when people basically asked her straight-up if she got pregnant before marriage when they noticed that her kids were not of the same skin tone. Her husband is from Africa, and she is from North Carolina.

What Defines Race?

No matter what a person believes on the matter of interracial marriage, I want to begin with the fact that we are all made in the image of God (Genesis 1:27). I chose to write this article because I love to research Scriptures on topics to gain understanding. I personally know and care for a variety of interracial married couples who love the Lord.  One of my dearest friends is an African American woman who is married to a Caucasian man. Another of my closest friends is Greek, and she is about to marry a man of Puerto Rican and Dominican descent. I tell her that they are going to have beautiful “Puerto-Greek-an” babies one day.

But let us not stop there. I am friends with a Caucasian woman married to an African American man. I also have a friend who is a Japanese woman married to a Caucasian man; they have three beautiful children and serve in ministry together. I know Romanians married to Americans, and a Pilipino woman married to a Southern man. Do they all experience hardships in different ways for their choice to marry one another? Yes. Would they have chosen a different path? No.

Read the rest on crosswalk.com.

Finally, what do you think about the Queen of the UK, Queen Elizabeth’s response…

Any thoughts?